Surreal concept with a scared guy shelters inside a cardboard box. Introvert man caged by own fears as a thunderstorm cloud trapped him under the rain. Mysterious storm as emotional crisis symbol.

If there is 1 thing I know about, it is fear. It may manifest itself in many forms and it has different definitions depending on the circumstance. When I think of dread, I could best fit it to this definition: a painful emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc., if the danger is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of being fearful.

I have a friend that has been described as paranoid and the feeling of being fearful is part and parcel to this. She explained that she often identifies with a quote from Edmund Burke, “No passion so effectually robs the mind of its powers of acting and reasoning as fear.” Fear can drain you of all logic and reason and make you tired all of the time.

I asked my friend what she needed to be frightened of, listen carefully, this just may sound familiar to you. She explained:

I fear. Fear for my job, my life and my kids. As an example, if there’s a door closed then the people behind it should be talking about me and I’m afraid I will be fired. Whether the fear or scenario is real or not, does not matter. Fear functions to conjure up many unique situations in my life, and in my mind, none of them ever finish well. Something as straightforward as an entry in a calendar which doesn’t have anything to do with me, but has me thinking that it somehow does, has turned my entire day upside down. Like the time an entrance my boss said “collect resumes”.

Not knowing of any reason he or she would be doing this, I automatically assumed I was being terminated and they were searching for my replacement. Then I started. I began to worry, perspiration and feel nervous and sick. I paced the floor, called some friends, stressed, wondered and walked on egg shells for days. Turns out it had nothing to do with me, and it was also none of my business . The fear was unwarranted.

Fear may result in several unhealthy side effects as it takes over your life and begins to destroy you. It consumes your every thought, you shed sleep, do not eat well and essentially turn into a walking time bomb just waiting for one final thing to go wrong. Every mistake someone makes comes with anxieties attached to notions of how it will work it out in the long run. Rather than being the individual constantly saying ‘what if’, stop worrying about something which won’t ever happen and only search for the best outcome.

Many people who live with constant fear attempt to get help. Needless to say, they go and see a counsellor. Needless to say, a counsellor will attempt to assist you by talking you through it. Many counsellors will ask, “what are you afraid of?” If, as an instance, the situation is “I’m having difficulty at work, and I believe I might be let go. Am I paranoid?” The counsellor’s response about how to face those fears is to envision and prepare for the worst. “Okay, so if this does occur, what could it look like? How bad could it be? How do you prepare? What can you do to answer the challenge of searching for work?” Basically, they can help you face your fears with a planned situation or plan B. You can do it on your own. When you’re faced by fears, do not let them destroy you. Instead, talk yourself through the situation and think of a plan, or attempt getting confident in your role and giving it 100 percent. If you’re positive and send out a sign that you’re there to stay, you can calm your fears.

Needless to say, everybody has their own way of facing their fears. It requires confidence, courage, strength and a fighting attitude. Not all fears are envisioned. I’m not sure you can really conquer every panic but if you face it head on, you can proceed with your life.